neckkiss:
“Just remember that sometimes, the way you think about a person isn’t the way they actually are.”
— John Green, Paper Towns (via perrfectly)
jaubaius:
Cows up high…
It’s in India, Maharashtra
Sooooo, we decided to do a smaller/more secret ceremony today before we have two bigger ceremonies to celebrate with everyone in a year or two. It felt amazing to have this personal moment with my best friend. We got blessings from our families beforehand and went to get our marriage license. They have a three day waiting period so we had to come back. I was so nervous! Isaiah was extremely sweet and comforting and was surprised by how nervous I was. I’m glad we did it and that we did it OUR way.
We are saving the name change for after our bigger weddings. One will be in California and another will be in Oregon or Washington (still deciding). Keep it on the hush :)
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.”
– C.JoyBell C. (via perrfectly)
I was telling my sister how I would leave immediately if my dude ever cheated and she was like, “Oh I thought he cheated before.” Umm, no. Hell no.
BUT he was a whore when we first started talking. He did tell me from the get go that he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend because he had just gotten out of a shitty on-again/off-again one. He expressed that he did not want me to be with other people (classic), but also that he couldn’t stop me. He was basically wanting to do whatever and have me all to himself. The old, “having your cake and eating it too.”
We kept hanging out with no strings attached, even though we acted like bf/gf (I guess it was closer to an open relationship with no titles). We would have nap dates, exchange gifts, I met his family, we’d go on dates, etc. I would talk to my old friend about how he was probably sleeping with a million other girls and they would always say there was no time in the day for it because we were always together. But deep down, I knew he was. I definitely had my own share of fun and we had a “don’t ask, don’t tell” kind of thing going.
Right before he moved to Cali and I stayed in Oregon, we started saying we loved one another. After he moved, I made a joke while we were on the phone and he got kind of quiet and took the opportunity to actually tell me about things he’d done. I had always known, but hearing it was completely different. I hung up, refused to talk to him, and started dating someone else and told him he should do the same. I expected loyalty, even though that wasn’t part of our deal. After a long while, he wrote my mom and tried to get her to convince me to talk to him. We were never together officially, but it still hurt.
Fast forward a little, we became cordial and started being friends again. I became happy with someone else and we were moving fast. Of course since I was moving on, he decided he was ready to step up and wanted to actually be together. He said he tried seeing others and no one compared, blah blah blah. He surprised me in OR with a dog and convinced me to move to California. I had a little apartment that a GSD could not stay in so I had to do something quick. After a little while, I made the big move, even though I was not sure what I wanted.
We did not get along AT ALL when I moved back to Cali. He tried really hard and I was not the nicest. I hated him because I cut off so many guys and the person I had grown to love in order to move closer to him and share the puppy. In all honesty, I hurt myself trying to force someone to give up everything he already had going on when he explicitly told me from jump that he did not want anything serious. I still freaked out when I saw all the texts and conversations from the times we were kicking it, but not together (even though I had no right to be upset about it). He freaked when he found out the extent of my relationship with the person I was seeing.
But we pressed on. It took SO much work. We were both hurt. We had to try to build a relationship and live together after a year of not being official. We were not actually bf/gf until we moved in together. We had already met each others fams and everything else. We did things so backwards.
I’m glad he was honest and we came to an agreement from the beginning, even though feelings got in the way. So basically, friends with benefits suck and I definitely do not recommend this to anyone. Some people are able to do the whole “no strings attached” thing and I thought I was one of them. I am not 😂😂😂 Glad we ended up together after that, but we both wished we would have known from the start. A million years later, we have three pets, own a home together, have two cars, joint bank accounts and credit cards, and are discussing marriage and a shit ton of babies. 😆 We definitely would not have foreseen this during our ratchet beginning.
kevingetem:
It’s okay to miss ppl, but don’t ever forget why u distanced urself
medusabraids:
my pussy was
wetter than a seaquarium
but you were scared of water
-rupi kaur
